Way Too Fast

I spent a good part of the New Year's Eve sorting through the kids' outgrown stuff, getting them ready for donation, give-aways and Craig's List. Everyone tells you to enjoy your kids because it goes too fast. But you don't quite realize how fast it really goes until you are staring at the stuff that not one, but both of your kids--who are five years apart, no less--have outgrown.

Here's the changing table that we received as a gift over seven years ago. It managed to withstand both of our wiggling, screaming, poopy kids. Both EB and BBoy pretty much hated laying still so they squirmed, rolled and kicked through most of their diaper changing sessions. Towards the end, one of its corners cracked and K ended up having to reinforce it with a heavy-duty metal wire. It's a simple changing table, but it served us well. In-between wiggles and kicks, K and I would kiss and bite their little toes, tickle them and gobble them up while they belly-laughed. I am going to miss this changing table.

EB at six months

BBoy at three months

Here's the crib that both kids slept in the first two years. Most nights they slept peacefully, 10-12 hours at a time (yes, we got lucky on that front). EB slept in that crib until two-and-a-half, whereas BBoy graduated to a big boy bed a few months shy of two. The little guy kept trying to climb out of the crib (he's a sneaky one), so we figured it was time.

BBoy planning his escape

EB peacefully sleeping

And then there's the little car that EB scooted around in. And the doggy walker that BBoy leaned on and learned to walk. Baby bottles and baby sippy cups. Bags of their outgrown booties, shoes and onesies.

In a blink of an eye, EB has moved on from giggling, singing toddler to to the still-giggling, still singing, sometimes eye-rolling and sulking pre-tween girl. BBoy is not too far behind, trying desperately to keep up with his big sis, struggling for more and more independence each day. And I look at both of them with awe, excitement, wistfulness.
























My 2014 resolution? Cherish each day. Because it really does go too fast.

A Star-Studded Week

EB had a star-studded week filled with personal visits from various Rise of the Guardians heroes.

It all started on EB's birthday--(Seven!!! Where in the heck did the time go!?)--when Jack Frost decided to pay us a big, big visit. I had not seen a snow storm like this since I lived in the Northeast over seven years ago.  Although our plan of celebrating EB's birthday at the movies and restaurant was completely shot, there was no disappointment on her part -- the kids had a blast playing in the snow.

Four days later, the temperature continued to hover in the mid-20s, with no sign of reprieve. We were all feeling a bit edgy--EB's school had been closed for days, BBoy's daycare was opened on a very limited basis, and K and I took turns working from home. At one point EB's sauciness got the best of her, and there were lots of talking back and tears. In order to redeem herself, she wrote a letter to Santa.

"Sorry Santa for being disrespectful to my parents. I should have been more nice to them."

The next day, K Santa wrote back (he's quick to respond, that eager beaver),  and EB found the letter while getting our mail (K had cleverly put it there while EB and I were out shopping).She ran back into the house exclaiming: "Mom, Santa wrote me back!" and began tearing at the letters before taking off her shoes and jacket. To EB's relief, she was given a chance to redeem herself.

Written by Santa's copywriter -- K

That very same night, she lost her second baby tooth, which meant a visit from the Tooth Fairy while Mr. Sandman sprinkled his sleepy dust.

The only Guardian that was missing from her week was the Easter Bunny. But Easter Bunny will have to wait for a few months.

A very belated birthday

Bboy turned two years old., ahm, like, three months ago. Here's the thing--K went back to work this past June and since then, our lives have become a series of schedules, deadlines and a lot of teeth gnashing over our schedules and deadlines. So I guess I've been a bit behind in my blogging and before I knew it, BBoy's birthday has come and gone.

But it's never too late to write about the dear little Man in my life...just look at this little face.

He has a playful, sweet smile, and a flirtatious way about him and makes me swoon with love every morning I see him. Yes, the dude knows how to work me.

He is now speaking in full sentences, and already very defiant ("No Mama, I don't want it!") but also very loving ("I wuv you, Mama!").

He loves to babble on the phone with my parents. Whenever he hears me talking with Mom and Dad in Mandarin, he would run over, yelling: "I want to hi ah-gong and Nai-Nai!" (translation: I want to say hi to Ah-gong (Mandarin for 'grandpa') and Nai-Nai (Mandarin for 'grandma')

And,did I mention that he has an obsessive love of cars and trains? Until this guy came into my life, I had no idea that our house would be bombarded by planes, trains and automobiles. Behold the exhibits.

Exhibit 1: His favorite toys.

Exhibit 2: His favorite books.

Exhibit 3: His favorite PJs.




Exhibit 4: The centerfold.

We had just bought a brand-new Mazda, and with it came a glossy magazine of, you guessed it, Mazda cars. Knowing BBoy's fondness for cars,  I gave it to him for a bit of fun reading. He slowly turned the pages, and when he hit this centerfold page he STOPPED, absolutely mesmerized. He looked up at K and I, and exclaimed: "WOW! CAR!" This made K snicker: "look at him with his Playcar centerfold."


Happy be-lated second birthday, little Man!

First Day of First Grade

So I hopped on Facebook this afternoon, and noticed posting after posting of back to school pictures: beaming kids wearing their new backpacks/uniforms/Shirley Temple smiles, holding a sign that commemorates the occasion (e.g.: "Look, I'm in Kindergarten!" "First Grade!")

And if you look at the photos carefully, you will notice the soft, luminous rays of light beaming down on their child, proving that the picture was taken at the crack of un-Godly hour for the poor, non-morning souls living in Arkansas--some time between 6:45 am and 7:15 am.

How do you all do it? (And quit making us look bad)

This is how our morning went:

6:20 am -- alarm goes off. We hit snooze.
6:30 am -- both K and I reluctantly get out of bed. I make EB's breakfast, K stumbles upstairs to wake her  up.
6:45 am -- K, still un-showered, walks EB to her bus stop.
6:46 am -- I come out, notice that EB's backpack and lunch bag are still on the kitchen table. I call K on his cell.
6:48 am -- K and EB run back to the house. My hair still wet, wearing nothing but a robe, I run into the car, yell for EB to jump in, and drive her to the bus stop.
6:55 am -- I lecture EB about the importance of remembering critical school items like the backpack.
6:57 am -- School bus comes, EB gets in. She looked nervous, but ready.
6:57:57 am -- I drive back to the house, marvel at how fast she has grown, and realized that I had forgotten to take a picture of her first day.

K decided to take a picture of her after her school so that we didn't seem completely delinquent as parents:

Which slightly vexed and embarrassed her, since it was in full view of her classmates:

No matter, it was a good first day for EB indeed. And K and I will try better tomorrow. After all, tomorrow is another day.

Look Ma...

...no teeth! And I wasn't even home to see her lose her first baby tooth *SNIFF*

Happy birthday to....

...Me! Yes, I turned another year older yesterday. I won't directly reveal how old I am, but let's just say that someone got invited to her 20th high school reunion this year. Yes, that someone is getting old.

Birthdays used to be a big deal to me when I was younger--I would take the day off and plan a night out. But as I age, I'm finding that it really doesn't take a whole lot to make my birthday.

Take yesterday for example. It was a work day for both K and me, so we decided to keep it relatively low-key. In the morning, I went to Starbucks to redeem my free birthday coffee, and was completely tickled when I saw the birthday greeting scribbled on my cup:

In the afternoon, I opened up my Facebook and was delighted to see a bunch of birthday wishes from folks from many different facets of my life: best friend, acquaintances, high school, college, grad school, work; you get the idea. It makes me realize at how little effort it takes to brighten up someone's day--just a simple, What's-up-saw-on-FB-it's-your-birthday-so-have-a-good-one message is all it takes. And it takes probably all but 3 seconds. So note to self, I will definitely be giving regular b-day shout-outs to folks going forward.

At night, we went to grab dinner at a kid-friendly restaurant, followed by a visit to the ice cream shop, where BBoy proceeded to feed ice cream to everyone at the table.

Then after the kids drifted off to bed, K and I settled in front of the TV to catch up on another episode of Mad Men.


It was a very good birthday, indeed.

My advice to parents who want to take their very young kids camping...

...don't. Hellz no. Unless you are a glutton for punishment, like K and I.

Back in our childless days, K and I camped a lot. We loved waking up to crisp, morning air (think Maxwell House commercial, the one where the couple emerges from the tent looking well-rested, smiling at the prospect of having the best cup of instant coffee ever). And at night, we love lingering by the campfire under the stars, sipping on wine, feeling completely at peace.

K and I had not camped since EB was born over six years ago. But lately, EB started talking about camping quite a bit. We suspected that BBoy was a bit on the young side, but we didn't want to deny EB the experience, so we decided to give it a try.

So what went wrong, you ask? It wasn't one particular thing but a slew of little, annoying things. First, it was the prep process. Since we had not used our equipment in so long, it took us days to get everything ready: take the equipment out of the attic, air it out, figure out what was missing, struggle to remember how to setup the tent, pack up the food items, etc, etc, etc. And since we were only camping for one night, our whole preparation-to-play ratio was completely off-kilter.

Regardless, everything looked very promising on the day of our trip. We loaded up the car and drove for an hour in sunny, 68-degree weather. We sang during the car ride, played "I spy," and upon arrival, took a few happy, silly pictures so we would be able to prove remember later just how much fun we were having.

We are having FUN, I say!

For dinner, I  made Frito pie with our portable gas burner, but I had forgotten how hot the burner could get. Within a matter of minutes, I ended up charring the ground beef, thereby infusing our Frito pie with an essence of cigarette ashes--it was quite the exquisite dish. While I was burning making our dinner, K was busy pitching our tent and getting everything ready (again, the prep-to-play ratio thing). During this time, EB decided to gather firewood and basically ignored BBoy. Poor BBoy wanted to keep up with EB, but his little legs weren't coordinated enough to negotiate the branches that were sticking out all over the place. He kept falling and breaking into frustrated tears and tantrums.

The one time that EB decided to pay attention to BBoy was
to torment him with her yellow flashlight

Charred dinner--complete. Tents--pitched.
The kids look happy, but Mom and; Dad need wine...

Our nerves were rattled, so after we were done with dinner and s'mores,  we got the kids in the tent and prayed for them to quickly drift off to sleep. For awhile, we heard giggles coming from the tent, and as K and I sipped on our wine in front of an open fire, we felt our nerves calm. All was good.

But then 15 minutes later: "Mommmmmm....B keeps on jumping on my head!"
Another five minutes pass: "Mmmmoooommmm...his butt is in my face!"
1 minute later: "Mommmm! I just want to go to sleep!
1 minute later: Tears from both kids.

K and I sighed, put out the fire, and turned in. We managed to separate the kids, calm them, and eventually, all of us slowly drifted off to sleep. Only to wake up in the middle of the night with our air mattress sinking to the ground. K and I wanted to pump up the mattress, but since the kids seem to sleep through it just fine, we decided to rough it. K and I barely slept from that point--we felt the hard, cold earth against our backs, which made the 42-degree air feel even that much colder.

The next morning, we decided to go for a quick hike. Both K and I were like zombies, which made us ill-equiped to handle the tantrums that the kids decided to throw during our hike. At that point, we knew that we were done; it was time to pack it up.

We got home that afternoon exhausted and cranky, with a car-full of equipment and dirty pots/pans/utensils to be put away (again, the prep-to-play ratio complaint). To top it off, EB received a little send-off gift--a tick that decided to burrow itself under her arm (would would've thought that ticks would thrive in sub-50 degree weather....)

So in summary, here are our learnings from the excursion:

• Camping truly makes for a fun family trip. Just wait until all of your kid(s) are old enough to be reasoned with, say 6, 10 or 35 years old.
• If you are going camping, make it longer than one night. Otherwise, the amount of time spent on packing, planning, putting up and taking down a camp site would not be worth the short visit.
• Make sure your air mattress is full and leak-free. Otherwise, you will have a rather cold night.
• No matter how cold it is, spray your kids down with DEET before sending them out to the woods.
• And bring more than one bottle of wine. It makes the camping trip better.